It ain’t any secret that relationships require efforts. They are a plant that are needed to care and nurture till the end. For the sake of healthy relationships, most of the couple try not to repeat the mistake their parents made, but still loophole exists that may ruin the relationship. Fortunately, ‘delete’ is the button that can be pressed every time to start new but the question is, why to do so?
why making and repeating mistakes that can create distances and reduce your love for your partner. Why not identify and make good habits and practice them for a happy present and future? Don’t let the past ruin the present that can create a wonderful future……… Here are most common mistakes that couples make but the good news is, you can rectify them immediately and if you still have not made it, make sure you never do.
Not being clear about expectations –
It is your anniversary and you wanted your hubby to present you that princess-cut diamond ring that you left in the showroom. But you were surprised with a bouquet followed by a dine-in. Or may be he forgot to wish you. Now what you did is spoiled your mood along with a wonderful day. Don’t you think you would have hinted him earlier? It is better to voice out your expectations rather than keep on expecting them to be fulfilled.
There is no shame or feeling low if you announce what you want. Everyone like surprises but if your partner is not good at memorizing things, better remind them periodically in order to avoid fights.
Forgetting to cherish their partner
Man or woman, each one of them are human beings who want to be cared, loved and acknowledged. Small gestures like exchanging the smile or kissing before leaving the house can solidify your marriage. Don’t forget to spend as much as possible time around your partner because that can lay foundation of a trustworthy marriage. Please them with helping in their chores. Take interest in each other’s interest.
Neglecting their presence
Your life partner is that one that is supposed to stand with you during every thick and thins. We often forget to share minor things that can actually make a difference. Make your partner fee required by you often. Don’t make them feel disappeared if you are around them. Keep the small talks alive even if your house is filled with guests or if you are living in a joint family. Make sure to communicate whenever possible.
Intervention of relatives
Yes, you heard it right. Intervention of any third person can ruin your relationship. It is your life and you have to understand that interference can only build the walls not bridges. In the joint families, this is a common problem. Couples pass their lives pleasing every other member and they forget about each other. Permission of elders is required even for a small get together. So it is in your hands how to make things clear with them and build a great foundation of love. Set a precedent to spend at least a day together if you are really occupied in household chores. Even if you are living separate, make sure your relatives don’t interfere.
Lack of respect
It is not easy sometimes to love and respect your partner at the same time. We often take them for granted. Especially men, who think it is all right to undervalue their wives. No, you must not. Giving respect to your partner adds respect to you also. Your children learn and they will treat their future partners also in the equal way. If the bond of trust and respect is there, love automatically nurtures. Wives also, who are from a higher background must not treat their husbands lesser. Love and respect must be exchanges equally in this relation.
Trying to change your partner to a different person
Arrange marriage or love marriage, no one can know or understand a person completely. Change is the only constant and yes, people do change with time. Try to accept each other the way they are. Voice out if any habit or thing is bothering you but never try to shape them in your mold. Also, it is true that opposites make the life interesting. So enjoy their imperfections and show them yours. Nobody is perfect, enjoy the fact.
Keeping secrets and holding grudges
Don’t keep a secret. Especially if its revelation can damage your relationship. Don’t do anything atrocious at the cost of your precious relationship. Secrets may ruin marriages and lives. Think about the lives of your kids and partner before betraying.
If the secret is really important to be concealed then keep it. But never cheat your partner. Leave them if the relationship is not working, talk to them and find a solution if want that to work. Never leave any fight unresolved. Talk and sort out the matter. Repeat the conversation and take as much as time you need but don’t hold the grudges.
There is no secret recipe of making marriages work but few acceptance and avoidance can make it last longer and sometimes till eternity. So make sure your partner feels confident and happy around you and leave no stone unturned to build your life on a foundation of love.